Have you ever found yourself in one of those situations that seem to bring on an instantaneous reaction of defensiveness and frustration? Something comes up that you just don't agree with or just aren't comfortable with and immediately you throw the walls up and completely shut down. You are no longer open to even the slightest consideration of the situation, no matter how it is presented.
A friend of mine has gone through this a few times with her husband, but with the most recent incident came my inability to shut my mouth. Her husband has expressed to me, on occasion, that he feels attacked when these situations come up and basically feels like there is no support. So in considering that comment, a whole new conversation evolved and it got me thinking on much broader terms.
See, even as I discussed the situation with my friend, I noticed that I was being quite negative myself. It is almost human nature to just shut down...if there is disagreement, then forget about it and just let it go. But why not explore that disagreement? Instead of throwing up the walls and standing there with hands chalk full of ammunition, why not search for other solutions? See, I have learned that there are MANY situations in life that can have a positive outcome. It's all about the law of attraction. The thoughts that we communicate to the universe, will absolutely come true. No matter what the issue is, we are creating those outcomes, whether we realize it or not.
SO, for example, with my friend...instead of mulling around and coming up with all this ammunition as to why she believes something won't work, I suggested coming up with some alternatives to the issue at hand. So instead of confronting her husband and shooting him down, together they can explore various choices and alternate outcomes. When thinking this way, she is communicating to the universe that somehow, things will work out! Rather then continuously saying, "no, this just isn't going to work and this is what's wrong with it, etc etc etc...", She is instead saying, "yes, we can make this work if we try a or b. Let's discuss our options."
When put in these terms, we are constantly putting out positive thoughts and "vibes", so to speak, that will come back to us. Instead of having the eternal pity party, complaining about what we don't have, why things have gone wrong and why we will never be truly happy or fulfilled, we should always be thinking of ways to make things work, ways to make our dreams come true, and ways to truly be happy. The whole saying, "mind over matter" is absolutely true if we genuinely believe it. I have NEVER started a competitive soccer game without laying on the field, eyes closed, while my coach walks us through the greatest game of our life, one step at a time, the clean shot, the roaring crowd and the beautiful win. It is VERY possible to create our destiny if we can have the faith necessary to let go and BELIEVE! Believe in our own power to create that destiny and the power of God to guide us through. If we can change our ways of thinking and look on the lighter side of life, WE WILL CREATE our own destiny. How could you NOT be happy and content with the knowledge that you have taken an active role in your destiny and, in turn, surrounded yourself with all the people and things that make your life complete?!? That is what will help us get to, and stay on, that ROAD TO FULFILLMENT.....ENJOY THE RIDE!!!
***Happiness is in the Journey, NOT the destination***
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